Quick Tip – Find a Trusted Mentor

You may be missing a big opportunity for your career – Issue #108

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“Everyone needs someone in their corner who confidently believes in them.” ― Robin Roffer

There are times some of us feel like we must have the worst manager in the world. They don’t seem to notice the great work we’re doing.

I’ve had this happen a few times during my career. I’ll take the blame for the times that I should have done a better job of promoting myself. However, there were other times that my manager was lazy or incompetent.

When this happens, you may be wondering why you’re not receiving the guidance you need to succeed in your job.

Or worse, the only time your manager says anything is when they have negative feedback to share. It doesn’t exactly work wonders for your confidence.

You may feel like you’re alone, but did you know that only 35% of U.S. managers are engaged in their work and the workplace? These bosses are checked out. They aren’t doing their job, and they certainly aren’t looking out for you.

Up to 50% of people in the U.S. have been forced to quit a job to escape a bad manager. We’ve all had our fair share of bad bosses.

Even if your manager is doing a great job, they can’t always play the role of mentor for you in every work situation. There are times that you need advice, and you’re worried about asking your manager for fear of looking like you don’t know how to do your job.

Or, there are times that you need guidance on how to deal with something going on with your manager, so you need a safe, outside perspective.

DO NOT make the mistake of asking a coworker or direct report for advice on how to handle your boss. This can backfire if news of this leaks back to them.

Find someone outside of your organization, or even outside of your company. It must be a person you trust completely. You should feel comfortable being vulnerable and sharing as much information as possible.

It should also be someone who can actually provide you with useful feedback and helpful advice. For example, it could be a person you admire who is in the same profession as you, but further along in their career.

As you already know, I do provide this service as a confidential career advisor. But, people often rely on informal mentors too.

One thing to remember is that you shouldn’t take advantage of this relationship. When someone is providing you with free advice and support, they can’t spend hours every week doing this. They have their own job and personal life.

But, you could undoubtedly buy your mentor coffee or lunch a few times a month to gain valuable insights in return. It’s well worth the investment in your career!